Would You Compromise Your Art To Keep A Relationship

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    GregVincey : Tue 9th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago Whether it's a relationship with your partner, friends, or your family. Would you fold in the towel on your passion, the one thing that makes your heart race?

    You can also share your story on giving up, coming close to giving up, or you just putting it to rest for a while. (No judging each other please)

    The reason I decided to ask you all this question, is because people I know or acquaintances always think they know whats best for me. Almost every approach is money this, money that, work for the government, or join the service lecture. If I say it's not for me, almost every time they talk about their houses or their new cars or how this generation of young people don't like to work hard.

    haha, was a bit of venting there, was on my mind for a long time, I suppose I will talk about it now.
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    Spivkurl : Tue 9th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago It's difficult to answer your question, since I feel like there are some things missing in your post. I will try to explain...

    When speaking of relationships, you have not mentioned LOVE. At the same time, when speaking of music, you have not mentioned LOVE.

    Then when speaking of the interaction between music and relationships, you are speaking of work/money. This leads me to believe that you think of music as work/money. This is of course your right.

    In the end, none of this leads me to believe that you are speaking of relationships, but are speaking of choosing a career. If someone does not approve of your choice of career, why should you care, especially when LOVE does not enter into it?

    If you honestly feel like you would have to choose between a relationship of some sort and art, then I feel that you may need to sit and think about what you LOVE. Beyond that, there is simply no reason to limit yourself to one thing in life.
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    Xmachine : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago If people constantly think they know what is best for you ask youself what is it that they see in you which prompts this response.
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    808purp : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago ahah fuck this bitch lets trap
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    GregVincey : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago @Xmachine: Artsy stuff arn't the norm here, they see it as time wasting. Which they'r wrong.

    @808purp It's 7:00 AM in the morning, to early to be traping lmao

    @Spivkurl
    It's a well thought out post, direct as possible.

    Any relationship, their's love, and fondness for each other. Why else would their be a relationship? Still haven't mention music in my post above

    Okay dude, that's your opinion. 1st off #1 I only just shared the outlook of relationships towards me, Never even mention music, I said art, yes music is a art form, but there'r artist outside of music.

    I were speaking of relationships till the very end. Bro, I just ask if you would throw in the towels on your passion to keep a relationship, like if your partner, friends, or family gave you an ultimatum. Yes, you shouldn't care, that's your opinion, I want to know what others on the forum think.
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    PatriciaEdwards : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago That's a very tough decision. I think if a person cares and loves you and they see and know your desire and passion for your music they would not ask you to give that up. You will not be happy in any relationship if you do not stay to true to yourself and follow your dreams and do the things that will make you happy.

    So, my answer, no, I would not compromise, because I would not be happy. Been there, done it, but would never do it again!
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    Spivkurl : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago Mr. Vincey, I believe that you missed my point somewhat.

    Granted, I simply assumed music seeing as this is a music related site. In that case, simply replace the word music with art, and you are good to go.

    In regards to this - "Any relationship, their's love, and fondness for each other. Why else would their be a relationship?" - There are many reasons which bring people into relationships which have nothing to do with love. As some have said in the past, "you can't choose your family." That is just one obvious example. I personally feel no love at all for the vast majority of my family, yet can not deny the relationship involved.

    To clarify my personal experience... I love art, I love nature, I love my wife, and I love my cat. Each of these things supports the other without question, and I would not have it any other way. Any "relationship" beyond that does not warrant any sort of sacrifice of these "loves" on my part.
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    Neomorpheus : Wed 10th May 2017 : 2 weeks ago There's always going to be compromise in any kind of relationship. I'm not fully understanding why you use the word compromise and then say throwing in the towel. That's not a compromise. If your relationship is strained due to the amount of time, money, interest etc. that you have in your art or hobby/pastime, a compromise would generally involve reducing your involvement to some degree, NOT throwing in the towel. What are these other people in your life going to give up as part of the deal? A compromise involves both sides settling by mutual concession. Consult Websters.
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    GregVincey : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago @PatriciaEdwards Thanks for sharing, I feel you

    @Spivkurl Please point out where I said music in my post! It clearly says art in the tittle, I word it as art because I mean in general, like gardening, knitting, fashion designing etc. Read under this section description, it clearly says, "This area is for posts that have nothing really to do with music or looperman."

    It's great you have support from your fam, thanks for sharing.

    @Neomorpheus "There's always going to be compromise in any kind of relationship." It don't have to be, if the person love you for who you'r. I said compromise, and then "trowing in the towels" because that's sometimes the extent of the situation. I've seen it happen to a lot of people, when either bf/gf or even family don't like the dreams you'r following, and legit gave them an ultimatum, either give it up or get lost type deal. Some gave up their art, and dreams, just to make that person happy, not considering their own well being.
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    wikkid : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago Yes, because I've done it.
    There's nothing wrong with having a dream, however its always good to have a backup plan. I enjoyed gigging, however I didn't do it in earnest until I'd graduated from college. My degree is something I was able to fall back on (bought a house, kept food on the table, built a home studio)...

    Now, please understand that when I started, I got pressure about music being a man's world. More of the guys I knew had a girlfriend or wife who worked a job, and so the guys were able to gig. I had a bit more difficulty doing this because of the times (70s, 80s, 90s) and the fact that I was attempting to be a bass playing band leader

    As my children grew, I had to make some ard choices. I wanted to be there for them during school events. I needed to be there to help them navigate this world, so yeah, when the time comes, though you love your "art" sometimes you have to fold up the towel temporarily, due to a death in the family or a birth, or putting food on the table.

    Anyway, that's my two cents, but I never lived my life to please someone else. I never wanted to be that parent who tells their child "If I hadn't had you, I could have done (fill in the blank).

    I did and still do what I want, but it wasn't by accident. It was by design.
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    Spivkurl : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago Replace "music" with "art" in my posts, and then go on with life. There *should* be no difference.
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    silverman : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago I hang my headphones up and switch off when I have visitors.
    When my six year old grandaughter calls and wants my time.
    When my 14 year old grandson wants it when my visiting kids want it.
    I press stop and take my phones off when my wife wants my attention.

    Otherwise it would be incredibly self centred and selfish wouldn't it?
    I'm not after fame or money though.
    Mine is just a hobby.
    Those chasing fame and money are often self centred and have an over large ego.
    Yesterday I got taking to a young ghuy who is a music producer. A recording artist. I asked if he had a studio.
    It's all done on my fone maaaan.
    Will there be a hit record soon done on a fone?
    Anyway ... yes you should put others before your hobbies ytour dreams etc or you might end up a very lonely ass hole.
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    Spd2 : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago I came very close to being signed with Sony back in 2003, but because my wife was carrying my son, I had to make a choice of whether I should continue my quest as an artist and hold a family at the same time, or hang it up and raise my family. I, of course, aligned my priorities and chose family first. I love my family very much, and I don't look back with any regrets. It was a wonderful ride, and I get to share my experience with my children and grandchildren. Now that my children are a bit older, I plan to do acoustic gigs at small clubs and a local coffee house. I get to enjoy playing live locally, and still make most of my time for my family. Let your heart lead you. I encourage you to continue what you love, whether you want success in the business, or having fun making music as a hobby. If you plan to take your music to the next level, make sure to have a back up plan. My two cents :)
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    Spivkurl : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago As Spd2 so fluently contributes... if children are you art, and your wife is your relationship, then you are not making any sacrifice. Love is involved, either way. For what it's worth, I have been watching Spd2 create music, either way, almost since this time he speaks of. You need not sacrifice one love for another.
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    Zivonmusic : Fri 19th May 2017 : 1 week ago If you're talking about the 'caring people in your life who tell you to keep a backup plan my slogan is that Anyone who tells you to have a 'plan B' is putting it nicely to you that they expect you to fail...


    ...I feel like I just went off on a tangent..
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    Planetjazzbass : Sat 20th May 2017 : 1 week ago People need to realise that "art" is an inherent innate ability possessed by everyone, it's part of the human condition and being an artist is nothing special it's just "normal" behaviour, look at birds in the sky they don't consider the beauty they represent only we can do that, even the people that advise against pursuing artistic endeavours are artists in some shape or form, be it baking a cake to carving stone, I suppose even people like 808purp have some artistic sensibilities buried somewhere. The whole premise of this thread is a question of peer pressure and the treadmill of consumerism...my advice is the names of the three buttons on a suit jacket starting from the bottom......sometimes, always, never.
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